sober companion help: greed in the family - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer
a review of dr. sober companions recent article about greed in the wealthy family disects the curse that these families think about , and offers solutions that might help.
Your curse to your children is that you require unhealthy ways to gain pleasure. It has been studied and pointed out (philip slater 1980), that your senseless greed and continuation in the pursuit of wealth long past the point that it gives you pleasure.
One of the main reasons wealth makes you unhappy is that it gives you too much control over what you experience. You try to translate your own fantasies into reality . . . an enervating and disappointing pastime ...
Your curse to your children was in their education and how they grew up. Your children's learning and growing are very difficult with wealth because they depend on experiences in real life, and wealth enables one to buy out of life.
Wealth provides the wherewithal to cling to every outworn fantasy, pathway, or goal-to grasp every outgrown security blanket more tightly-to control your input in such a way that you never need to change or develop.
The curse of money and its ultimate affect on you and your children could result in severe depression or suicide, its so powerful.
This curse of money was studied in depth by Cloe Madanes, who pointed out, "wealth often appears to be cursed, bringing with it more misery than joy." Sooner or later they realize that the wealth is not going to make them happy, but they then are likely to seek out more intense and drastic pleasures, from taking more risks, finding new drugs, getting into machines that go too fast, or otherwise trying to intensify experiences in a life that is rapidly becoming jaded, exhausted from overindulgence.
When a child grows up with having so much money, they don't have to work or succeed at anything in life, their wealth deprives them of pride in their own usefulness, isolates them from everyone less fortunate, distorts relationships with their loved ones, and ultimately disillusioning them.
Your children rates of depression and suicide, and their general levels of misery go up beyond middle-class levels almost to the levels of the poor.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.
sober companion from dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer
http://sober-companion.dr-sober.com/2009/01/wealthy-parents-greed-was-drug-they.html
Friday, January 30, 2009
sober companion review of why parenting time is more valuable to children then your money
sober companion review of why parenting time is more valuable to children then your money. dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer.
While a good parent would involve themselves in their childrens lives, you can control and develop a loving relationship with your children. Yes, You can also control the family life and the good family relationship in a positive way with the use of the money.
What often happens though, when you don't supply your children with this loving family atmosphere is that your children experiment by spending the money you control. Your children become angry and resentful at your efforts at control, and your children gets their only sense of power by blowing money foolishly.
Without your love and your time invested in your children, your children are likely to be in a state of permanent rebellion.
Your son or daughter need their father
When you as the father have little impact on your children-except to deprive them emotionally and set grand and ambivalently held ideals for them, you are destroying them.
Your son or daughter need their mother
When you as the mother spend little time on your children you destroy them.
Mothers are required by society to be the ones who spend more time with their children their fathers, but mothers can also go missing when it comes to parenting.
While mothers may feel guilty about it, whereas men more often than not have been praised for abandoning their families in the pursuit of various varieties of glory.
Can you understand how this way of life destroys your family and your children? There is something you can do about it and its not to late.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children. read more of sober companion article at dr. sober companion's blog.
sober companion from dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer
http://sober-companion.dr-sober.com/2009/01/why-parenting-time-is-more-valuable-to.html
While a good parent would involve themselves in their childrens lives, you can control and develop a loving relationship with your children. Yes, You can also control the family life and the good family relationship in a positive way with the use of the money.
What often happens though, when you don't supply your children with this loving family atmosphere is that your children experiment by spending the money you control. Your children become angry and resentful at your efforts at control, and your children gets their only sense of power by blowing money foolishly.
Without your love and your time invested in your children, your children are likely to be in a state of permanent rebellion.
Your son or daughter need their father
When you as the father have little impact on your children-except to deprive them emotionally and set grand and ambivalently held ideals for them, you are destroying them.
Your son or daughter need their mother
When you as the mother spend little time on your children you destroy them.
Mothers are required by society to be the ones who spend more time with their children their fathers, but mothers can also go missing when it comes to parenting.
While mothers may feel guilty about it, whereas men more often than not have been praised for abandoning their families in the pursuit of various varieties of glory.
Can you understand how this way of life destroys your family and your children? There is something you can do about it and its not to late.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children. read more of sober companion article at dr. sober companion's blog.
sober companion from dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer
http://sober-companion.dr-sober.com/2009/01/why-parenting-time-is-more-valuable-to.html
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